Often times we women are good at putting ourselves in a box, we hold everything in, and keep things contained. We contain our emotions, we contain our opinions, we contain our sexuality and worst of all we contain our dreams. I took these pictures which to some people (including me) is not risqué at all, but I admit it was out of my box- out of my self-imposed container, and I realized people – specifically guys couldn’t deal with it. They were used to the Kome that loves dresses and skirts, but not the girl in denim looking like a punk chic, clearly channeling Rihanna with the denim jacket, scarf, and hoop earrings, albeit smaller than Rihanna would have gone.
This was my coming out of the box, embracing every curve, bump, scar-everything about my body, it was a celebration of a non-skinny girl that has learnt to appreciate herself and adore her body. Learn to love yourself today, step out of your containment, and make sure you do it in something as stylish as denim.
The independent woman is fierce
The flames that burn in her heart dance in her eyes.
She is compassionate,
Arms outstretched she lends her help.
She is unapologetic,
Shrewd in business and sound in mind, she refuses to play it down.
She is strong,
She carries the future of the nation for 9 months inside her and for 3 years in her arms.
She is authentic,
Everything is done her way, her pace and her style.
She is a multitasker,
She joggles her kids, family, career and dreams and none of them fall.
She is beautiful,
Every inch, curve or bump is beautiful.
The lagos fashion story is one that is known by very few, I didn’t know it either. I watched the clip put together by the organisers, the designers shared their struggles – competing with imported clothes, not having customers for their clothes and how expensive it was for the designers to make them– they also shared their triumphs, and through the short clip my respect doubled, if not tripled. The clip set the tone for the whole event, millenials like me, looked with a different kind of admiration when the first designer ‘Modella Couture’ was announced, it didn’t just look like a bunch of old clothes my grandmother probably wore, I saw and felt the expression. I understood the mind of the designer that needed to express her identity in the world of the norm, and I understood the hearts of the women that purchased the clothes – individuality. The models’ strut embodying the liberation the clothes gave them, their smiles so wide as they play with the clothes, their hairstyles high and full completing the look in the past. King Sunny Ade’s music comes on and ushers us to the early 70s, the era of ‘juju’ then the masterpiece comes in, the last model struts down the runway with a dress that can only be described as a masterpiece, a fusion of the old and new, the material appeals to the 60s and the cut to us millenials. What a way to start a show!
Zizi Cardow’s interpretation of the late 70s to early 80s brought a fire, the choice of material vibrant and spicy, oranges and pinks flood the runway and ease us into the spunk that was the early 80s, big hair and an even bigger strut, Nigerian women were coming into their own, the post-civil war woman was edgy, vibrant, dressing in colours that scintillates our senses and appeals to our edgy side. The 80s woman is the woman we all want to be, unafraid and bold.
Ayo van Elmar, the youngest designer amongst the 5, maintained the level Modella Couture started the show with, unapologetic in her cuts and bold with her choice of fabric, but, as the 80s wound down, the Afros got smaller, and the women became ‘chilled’- it was the reign of the hippies, the chill that came with liberation was very obvious in their laid-back strut, their cool shades, scarves tied across their forehead, it truly was a celebration of the becoming of a woman, a woman that didn’t need to be overly edgy to be different, she didn’t need to be spunky to show a different side of herself. The 80s woman had grown into her own.
The 90s interpreted by Mai Atafo showed the increase in the ‘craze’ for weddings. Women became more conscious of how they wanted their wedding to look and most importantly how they looked, as usual, Mai didn’t disappoint, his cut exquisite and his style very original just like the ever-green wedding song that was playing in the background Oruka by Sunny Neji. The 90s woman was the hopeless romantic, she finally loves who she has become and has found love.
Lanre Da Silva Ajayi introduces us to this millennium, the 21st century woman, it was almost reminiscent as I watched the models strut down, lagos fashion really has evolved, but it proved how much of a cycle fashion really is, some styles from the 60s made a comeback, cuts from the 70s also, but what I loved most about the millennial woman was her appreciation for the past, she understood the thirst to be different of the 60s woman, she adopted the spirit of the 70s woman, that fire, edginess, spunk, she understands the chill of the 80s woman, and she paid homage to the hopeless romantics of the 90s with the bold red lip. She is 50 years of fashion in Lagos.
Music; drums beating -slow, fast, slow, fast
Bodies gyrating as if possessed by the spirit of whom they celebrate, their pants adding a new texture to the rhythm, they shine, their sweat gleaming on their skin as the light of the fire illuminates them.
From the earth through the fire she’s being formed – waxing and waning she’s moulded in the fire.
Kneeling around her are her ancestors, they clasp their hands, heads bowed, voices raised in unison with the drums, spirits high in anticipation -she’s almost here now.
The earth rumbles, the ante up, the haze of the excitement blinding.
She’s here now, her form is in the fire.
The torch is passed, Cleopatra to Rosa Parks, she passes to Amina of Zaria and with a smile on her face she gives it to Maya Angelou. Maya smiles, ecstatic as she passes it on to the most recent Maeyo Joie, and from a modern queen to another she hands the torch to me. From the embers of the fire another QUEEN is born.
My mark etched to my child bearing hips.
Hands lifted in appreciation.
Eyes lifted as I pray, and await his approval, and then he breathes.
His breath awakening my senses.
It is my era now. My reign, my rules.
From the fire, earth sealed with a breath -a QUEEN.
Girlsss, we need to talk. During this past week it became very evident that men(or rather boys 😒😒) like to play silly mind games. Like I don’t get it?? They put on this false act of bravado in public, but when you get to know them you can only wonder if they knocked their head somewhere because the words coming out of their mouth can only be translated as stupid.
So in my last post, I was saying I have gist, and you know I was sincerely happy to share this story with you guys. When I posted ‘smiles and lace’ I got dressed to ‘end things'(to be completely honest I don’t know why, because I didn’t even know when we started dating 😒😒) with one guy that has been on my case and you will not believe why. Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls I had not known this guy for up to a week and already he was talking about him and I having sex! Sex? Are you mad?? Do I look like some naive church girl? I like going to church and I’m celibate doesn’t make me stupid. So, I sha told him we need to chill, I can’t do anything and besides I don’t know him, he goes okay, I was excited, over the moon ecstatic, finally!!! It’s over! Butttt, this boy doesn’t quit, he calls me and tells me he wants to meet that he can’t “let me go”, what the fudge??? I sha met him again and explained why nothing can work out between us, but, once again boys proved that they are block heads and deaf, but this time I wasn’t having it, we didn’t talk. Now, fast forward 2 weeks later and this boy calls me and says “I’m tired of you being a naughty girl, I’m coming to see you” is this guy mad? Was he really thinking during that time I’ll miss him and decide to sleep with him?? Or was he just thinking he can call me and meet me when he misses me?? Please if this is not stupidity tell me? Funny thing is he is not the only one! My friend had this same issue!
This guy basically just met her and all he wants to talk about is gives( gives is like everything apart from the actual intercourse) and can you believe she tells him no, because she’s not about that life and next thing this boy is willing to ask her out, why?? Because of gives o, Gives! 😑😑 They are not even together o (except in his head), it has only been 24 hours since he asked her out and suddenly he is talking about them meeting at his place??? What the fudge?? For what o? Apparently his birthday is on Saturday and since she won’t be available, he wants them to ‘spend time together’😒.
I’m calling out all the guys that do this nonsense, stop! It’s unattractive! 😒 and it proves once more why they have to split men and women as two different species because most of you guys are block brained and need cane. If you read my blog and you do this nonsense, stop it please. Girls, I want to hear your opinions, are men really oblivious to their stupidity or do they just like to play dumb? 😒
We often wonder,
where happiness starts.
The journey usually begins,
in our individual hearts.
All the fortunes in this world,
shall not make our spirits sing.
It’s amazing how much joy,
a new dress seems to bring.
Happiness is processed,
a million times inside each mind.
The secret is no secret,
just be positive and kind.
The happiness you find in a new dress,
pleasure and satisfaction it brings
You can’t help but laugh at how ridiculous you feel!
Everything that makes us smile starts with the little things.
Hey guys! It’s been sooo long! I have been super busy in school and I really didn’t have time to blog. I hope you like this post, I was super excited the day I took these pictures and I kept talking and laughing 😂😂. Also, you guys need to hear what happened to me! Watch out for girl chat this week 😉😉.
So I found this beautiful poem on Anita poems, and I feel like this embodies everything I was feeling when I took those pictures .
This amazing new make up artist is up for an award, and I think she deserves it, someone reached out to me and told me how amazing she was, and I agree! She does editorial make up just as well as she does everyday make up, please let’s support her!
I know a lot of people won’t have anything to do on the 14th and may just be looking to have good time(like me), soooo, I have something for you, out of the goodness of my heart and the love I have for all the people that take the time to read, leave comments and like my posts, I doing my very first giveaway!!!!
It’s not huge, but it’s something I hope you like or are interested in. It’s speed dating and the reason I’m excited about this one is because you bring books and you exchange with your partner(just for a while, don’t worry you don’t have to give your books out, it gave me a fright too) which I find refreshing and cool. It’s the best ice-breaker and conversation starter and also gives you a better idea of the person’s personality and efficiently helps you decide immediately if you like the person or not! It’s amazing!
This is how the give away will go:
1. Read the post(obviously😂)
2. Drop a comment, good or bad, who cares(just joking let it be good o) it’s not on a first come first serve basis, but, the more you wash in your comment, the greater your chances of winning(this is expo o, if you drop comments on other posts too……just know I am seeing you)
3. Tweet about the event and giveaway tag me @kome_obi and @booksbarterng, also it’s not by most retweets,but, the more the retweets the greater your chances of winning too o
4. Post on instagram and tag me too (if you don’t have instagram use facebook, if you don’t have twitter also use facebook)
P. S – you don’t have to follow me, buttttttt, it won’t hurt if you do right 😉😉
And for all those that have eyes but didn’t read the banner, food and drinks will be given 😂😂
Hey guyss, welcome to the month of love! I’m in such a great mood already and I can smell romance in the air! It’s always super exciting when everyone tries to be romantic and cute to their ‘significant’ other and I especially can’t wait for Valentine’s Day!
So, for all my sisters that have dates already and already have plans for the 14th, here are some dresses I think some of you might be interested in! I have a lot of things in store for February! I am so excited!
Hey guys! I recently rekindled my love for instagram within the past week and I finally get why people love it so much! everytime I scroll through my timeline I always see the prettiest clear shoes, I can’t say much, but I am in love! I really really wish I had them and lemme not lie I ordered one, even though it’ll dent my already ugly account balance, but who cares, its all for fashion.